31 year age gap.. WDYT? - What Do You Think? - Essential Baby
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So does age matter? And do couples with large age gaps experience poorer or better relationship outcomes compared to couples of similar ages?
Large age gaps in a relationship: our readers respond
How many relationships have a big age gap? Across Western countries, about 8 per cent of all married heterosexual couples can be classified as having a large age gap 10 years or more. These generally involve older men partnered with younger women.
About 1 per cent of age-gap couples involve an older woman partnered with a younger man. The limited evidence on same-sex couples, however, suggests the prevalence rates are higher. About 25 per cent of male-male unions and 15 per cent of female-female unions demonstrate a large age gap.
But what these trends tell us is that the majority of the population is likely to partner with someone of similar age.
This largely has to do with having social circles that generally include peers of similar ages and being attracted to others who are similar. Similarity entails many things, including personality, interests and values, life goals and stage of life, and physical traits age being a marker of physical appearance. Why doesn't age matter to some? Many of the reasons proposed for age-gap couples have been largely rooted in evolutionary explanations, and focus on explaining older man-younger woman pairings.
From this perspective, it's thought men's preferences for younger women and women's preferences for older men relate to reproductive fitness. That is, the extent to which someone has "good genes" — indicated by their attractiveness and sense of energy also known as vitality — and the extent to which they are a "good investment" — indicated by their status and resources as well as their warmth and sense of trust.
Although men and women place importance on a partner who is warm and trustworthy, women place more importance on the status and resources of their male partner. This is largely because, with women being the child bearers, the investment is very high on their behalf time and effort in child bearing and rearing.
So they are attuned to looking for a partner who will also invest resources into a relationship and family. In couples with an age gap it's more likely the woman is younger. This is probably because women place more importance on resources and men on fertility. The success of a relationship depends on partners sharing similar values, beliefs and goals about their relationship. So, women being attuned to status and resources might explain why some women may be attracted to older men.
In contrast, there's evidence to suggest men value attractiveness and vitality more than women because, from an evolutionary standpoint, youth is seen as an indicator of fertility.
Given men cannot bear children, evolution suggests they're attuned to younger women to enhance the chances of partnering with someone who can provide children. But the evolutionary explanation is limited in that it doesn't explain why the reverse occurs an older woman-younger man pairingor why age gaps exist within same-sex couples.
For this, socio-cultural explanations might provide insights. With more women now working in higher positions and being paid more, they no longer have such a reliance on men for resources.
So, fewer women will prioritise resources when looking for a mate. Is there something deeper between the two of you than sexual attraction?
31 year age gap.. WDYT?
Do you enjoy hanging out with your partner's peer group? Does he or she like to hang out with yours? If not, can you give each other the space necessary to maintain friendships the two of you don't share? Are you prepared to reconcile the fact that your differing phases of life retirement vs. Do you have a big enough heart to deal with the likelihood of a serious illness striking the older partner first?
Are you prepared to compromise? It doesn't take much for a health issue to curtail a couple's social life or travel plans. Just as age has its rewards, so do age differences. The younger person gets an experienced companion who is often better established in the world.
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The "senior partner" may also have more money — perhaps, even, a more interesting life. The older person, for his part, gets a higher-energy companion who is likely to help the couple stay fit — and, quite likely, more sexually active.
But won't the "junior partner" eventually have to pay the piper? Well, if you're 50 and your companion is 70, you're almost bound to provide care long before you would for a mate of the same age. But we love whom we love.