Reconciliation Tarot Cards & The return of your Ex
Free Online Course for Learning the Tarot. The Five of Cups refers to that time when the pain of a loss is most acute. This man is looking only at the overturned. When the V of Cups appears next to Judgement, it is an indication that karmic Next to the Devil tarot card, the 5 of Cups infers that time must be spent in. And if you want to discover the top 10 Tarot cards for all kinds of Tarot Five of Swords—The Five of Swords shows that battle has been fought.
The current appears to be strong and this is reflected in the overwhelming strength of emotion he is feeling at present. He must let his tears and words flow forth. Even if his tears are of anger, regret or shame they must be released if he is ever to stand a chance of finding stable ground once more.
By the time he is ready to take the journey back to normal life again, it may all be water under the Bridge. The Castle or fortress is strong and represents security and protection for this distraught Figure. He may have run from this Castle and all it holds, alienating himself from everything and everyone he once knew and cared about.
He may now regret it and at present cannot think of a way to put it right. On the other hand, he may have been driven out, thrown out, banished or exiled from the Castle because of something he has said or done.
One way or another, he may feel that he has burned his bridges behind him. Just because he was the instigator of it does not mean that he not affected by it. At the end of the day, be it for better or worse, one way or another, his life has changed. He has suffered a death of some kind. Take for example, a Querant who came to me some years back.
After 30 years of an empty, cold, loveless marriage he left his wife once all the children had been reared, finished college and the mortgage paid off. He had waited and sacrificed all those years because he did not want to upset his children.
Reconciliation Tarot Cards & The return of your Ex
It took a lot of courage to break the news to his wife of three decades, his grown children and also his family who were used to a certain family set-up for a long time. He could not face more of the same as he grew old so he decided to do something about it. He admitted that he did not love his wife, that he probably never did and that he had only stayed out of duty.
Obviously the news caused an explosive reaction from not only his wife and grown children but also his family. No one wanted anything to change. His married friends backed off him for fear that they may be tainted by such lunacy or have to face up to their own marital shortcomings.
He realised that he had spent his whole life catering for the happiness of everyone else, putting his own happiness last on the list each time. He was broken and terribly haggard looking when I first met him. His body was stooped over and he complained of a nervous stomach.
Now many of you might think that this was a sign of his regret and shame for ending his marriage but that was not the case.
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When asked, he was very confident that he had done the right thing and wondered now why he had not done it a long time ago. He had never wanted to hurt anyone but there was no other way out for him.
On top of regret for the upset he had caused everyone when he chose life and happiness instead of their option, he was also angry that his own happiness had meant so little to them that they were prepared to let him sacrifice it for their own good.
His children were grown adults with children of their own and he had been a good father, better than most. They had to be responsible for their own happiness now and not look for it externally or constantly through him.
They had their own lives to live and so did he. The same applied to his family, they had to make their own happiness too. His wife, he said, would have to discover that for herself as living with a man who was not happy to be with her would only bring her down.
He had gone through the painful death of his old life, mourned all the loss and change that it wreaked and now stabilised, was ready to leave the past behind and turn to the potential of all the future had to offer. He no longer felt selfish for he realised that the truth was he had been selfless for too long. The story of the Five of Cups was very appropriate in this situation.
As we look at the Three Cups strewn on the ground we must also look at the possibility that the Figure in a fit of rage and anger hurled and smashed them to the ground. He may have uncovered lies, deceit or infidelity and has reacted impulsively. Their contents will vanish, drip by drip until they are no more.
The Five of Cups often appears in Readings when the Querant has gone through a very traumatic time or after a bereavement. We traditionally wear black to funerals and so this poor Figure in the card may be mourning the loss of a loved one and all that was associated with them. Irrevocable loss is often suggested by this Five and the sense that nothing will ever be the same again.
Life never stays as it is. Good times come and go and so do people. The Cups experience loss emotionally and find it hard to pull themselves out of it. The Heart is both a gift and a curse at times. When we are emotionally happy, our heart soars and it is the most wonderful thing in the world but when we are terribly hurt or distressed our heart sears with pain and we feel like it is being ripped from our chest.
We must all learn to accept loss as part of life yet we flail and rail against it. That is easier said than done. Like the Two remaining Cups, there is always something worth living for, all something left to fight for. We must learn from our loss and grow. There is a time for mourning and there is a time for moving on.
Its very presence indicates that have suffered a crushing blow on an emotional level. Its position in the Reading dictates whether it is current or in the past. However, if in the past and either recent or distant its ripples will still have the ability to cause emotional tremors. Intense dark emotions govern you at present. Life has certainly turned upside down for you and your carpet has literally been ripped from under your feet.
You may feel inconsolable, and caught up in a tidal wave of emotion may very well see no hope for the future. Indeed, the pain experienced now, can be very raw indeed.
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You have lost something of great emotional value to you, had it taken away or have had to let it go. Defeated and deflated you feel may dreadfully disillusioned about life and all that you have worked towards. Your deep sadness or loss may cause you to turn inwards in an attempt to make sense of what has happened. You may have cut yourself off from life and all you know and are familiar with.
Friends and family may not be able to reach the lonely place you exist in. This is a natural process of grief and indeed trying to hurry or deny this time can result in internalising the pain which can cause chronic emotional, mental and physical problems for you in the future. You may not understand this in your present state of mind and will certainly not appreciate being told that this dreadful time will pass and with it, the heavy pain and sadness, for all is not lost when the Five of Cups appears in your reading.
You may think that your life is over and that it will never get any better but you have more going for you than you realise. When the mists of grief and sadness lift, you will realise this and will become aware of the blessings you do have. These blessings, represented by the Two Standing Cups may be friends, family, a new relationship, opportunities or inner potential not yet realised.
Then, like the Figure in the card your blessings will lead you back across the bridge to stability. You will then be able to move forward with your new life and find a new normal. The Five of Cups often brings irrevocable change and therefore it may not be possible to go back to where you were at that place in time before the Three Cups were knocked over. That is in the past now and you have been stuck there with it too long allowing your life and feelings to become narrowed and very limiting.
Your focus must now be on the future and the belief that you still have one worth living for. The Five of Cups also brings remorse, guilt and self-blame.
What is it that you have done that you now terribly regret? Unfortunately, that is not going to happen. Strong emotions obviously influenced your actions and in the cold light of day you can take stock of the damage you have caused. People may shun you, friends turn away from you and family disown you. You may feel like a low-lifer and want to throw yourself in the river but things are not as bad as you think they are.
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Remember those Two Cups. The worst thing you can do right now is to wallow in your misery and slink away. Face up to the upset you have caused and although you will not be able to totally right the wrong you might be able to put this sorry mess behind you. Ask for forgiveness of those you have hurt and show them you mean it. In time this whole sorry incident may become water under the bridge. Then again, you may be making a drama out of nothing or prolonging a drama just to get attention. Just be aware that although friends stand by you at the moment and want to hold your hand, they will tire of this eventually and back off.
Do you really want to become the archetypal victim or martyr to those around you? Everyone has their own problems and you are not the only one suffering.
There is also no point in crying over spilt milk or locking the stable door after the horse has bolted. Acknowledge any mistakes or poor decisions you have made instead of wishing for what might have been. He doesn't seem to recognize those other two cups. His back is turned to them while he focuses with an almost obsessive gaze to the cups that are emptied. He seems to be full of regret and loss. There is a river in front of him with a beautiful little bridge that arches over the water.
A golden color castle stands erect and stable across the river bank. The bridge suggests that while you may have a tendency to focus on what you have lost, there is always another way to look at something. Just take the bridge to the other side. You could have a falling out with a good friend or spouse.
The Five of Cups urges you to see the light in the darkness. If you choose to see only the empty cups then it is truly a loss, but you can turn around and see the open cups.
The bridge in the Five of Cups indicates that not all your bridges are burned. It can suggest that you need to take some time out and reflect on your relationship. Not all is lost. The Five of Cups can indicate that inheritances are not what they seem. You may not be getting all the inheritance that you deserve.
Five of Cups in Love When a breakup happens it usually happens because there is trouble in a relationship. Perhaps the breakup was a good thing. The Five of Cups indicates that your relationship was imbalanced and now you can move away and correct the imbalances.