Created To Be His Helpmeet: Discovering the Dangers ~ Alicia A. Willis
Listen to Debi Pearl's best-selling book as read by her daughter, Rebekah Joy Anast, and son, Nathan Pearl. Somewhere over the passing years and. Created to Be His Help Meet, by author Debi Pearl, is one of these marriage manuals, and is especially popular in fundamentalist and Christian homeschool. For so long I tried to hide my love from my online readers. I didn't want anyone to know I absolutely loved Created to Be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl.
Jesus said that the world would know who we are by our love for each other, and he didn't seem at all worried that a deep love for fellow sisters or brothers would become something unnatural perverted. There was some advice that was given that absolutely scared me.
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One was advising women who were feeling pain during intercourse to suck it up meet your husband's needs Any pain during what is a normal bodily function means that there is something wrong, not that you need to deny yourself, merrily pretend there is nothing wrong and get through it. Another thing that bothered me is a woman was confessing that her husband was breaking into cars and having her stand guard. Debi's advice was to call the cops and turn him in How about confessing herself since she was helping?
These would be biblical and godly instructions. Another thing - and this is the last one, I promise - she instructs women to visit their husbands in jail who have molested their children There is a time for forgiveness, there is a time for confronting your offender, and yes he is their father, but this turned my stomach and it's in knots writing this.
Making an innocent child visit and pretend everything is okay with the man who tarnished and stole their innocence Don't bad mouth the man, but don't bring him jailbait either.
- Created to be His Helpmeet – The book I didn’t want you to know I LOVED!!!
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And - okay, I do have one more - I grew tired of her using scare tactics to get the reader to do the right and in her mind "godly" thing by your husband. He will have an affair if you don't do this. He will leave you for someone else if you don't do that. I love God, and I love my husband and I serve both out of reverence for God because it is love that drives me, it is joy, it is security in my faith and in my God. I know he will take care of me and I desire Him above all else Having said all of this, I will say that I agree about serving, I agree we need to consider others before ourselves, and we especially need to consider our husbands above ourselves.
But I will have to leave the rest. My husband and I read this together, and he doesn't like it at all. He feels like women have been demoted and degraded to nothing when he believes his daughter and I to be glorious, wonderful, intelligent and worthy of godly advice. Women weren't created to be doormats - created for men, yes, but to complete them, not to be subservient - most of all created for God. Dan appreciates me most when I encourage him to think outside of himself, and he thanks me when I push him through laziness just like I appreciate his wisdom and insight and learn from his abandon and zest for life.
We were made for men because they are incomplete alone - they are perfectly capable of living by themselves and taking care of themselves, but what they need from us is REAL unconditional love, devotion, respect, honesty and to be and give what they cannot.
Created to be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl
My husband doesn't want me fearing him, and God wants my joy, not my fear of what will happen if I screw up next - that is the devil's playground. She has made believing and following her pattern in her own marriage the standard for all marriages when Scripture makes no such distinction. As you read through my blog, you can see that I have a high regard for older women, both ones I know in real life, those I have met online, and women I have met on the pages of their biographies and books.
You will also see that I take very seriously the season of life I am now enjoying as an older woman and the purpose of this blog is to encourage homeschooling moms and anyone else who comes this direction by pointing them to Christ and to the Word of God as our standard.
I hope no one ever takes away any promotion of a paradigm to follow when they read here! Most of them are in Christian marriages, have a high regard for the Word of God, and are enjoying children and grandchildren who also love the Lord. But what troubles me is how that concept is being interpreted by the Pearls and how it is not taught in context as one of the many one anothers of Scripture. A man and a woman in a Christian marriage are, first and foremost, brothers and sisters in Christ.
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All of the one anothers are commands that apply to them…to admonish one another, serve one another, submit to one another, love one another, forgive one another, exhort one another, etc. It is a military term that, when applied properly, demonstrates how women are to be engaged in spiritual battle alongside of men.
And there are other ways that Scripture is either taken out of context, ignored, or completely absent.
Do you agree, for example, that all women are to have long hair and to have their heads covered when praying? When it says women are to keep silent in the churches, how is that interpreted?
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Can women sing in church? Her admonition for women to be keepers at home has been interpreted by many that women are never to have a job outside the home, no matter what the circumstances might be.
Other godly Bible believing Christians disagree. My friend, Sue, for example, who has been married for years to a disabled husband who was a former pastor, teaches school and has to in order to keep a roof over their heads.
They have a heavenly marriage. Also, there are examples of women throughout Scripture who made a living of their own, such as the women who accompanied Jesus and the disciples in order to financially provide for them and Lydia, the wealthy seller of purple who ministered alongside Paul.